Nov 6, 2020

I realized that I just didn't feel the need tof bother with it. I am happy with hobbies, just like you were saying, Nina. The foundation of our relationship is mutual respect. I have a wide circle of friends that I see often. I do not plan to go on dates or use online dating sites in the near future, and I will just see what happens in life. It’s what they’ve been saying for years now. The rules are unknowable, and frankly it's just not worth the amount I of time it taks just to get one platonic date. The more I developed, though, the more restrictive it came to me personally to have to share my life as a wife. Maybe it's subtle, but to me independent implies more of a lack of relationships; as in, I want to do things by myself. You raised a lot of very interesting issues. For me, it is the imbalance. There simply isn't someone for everyone. The calming of the hormones have helped and now looking for other ways to be happy, to further make me the creative and funny individual I am. I don't want the responsibility of making sure someone else is happy. yw Now I lose my rackets and am moving into a place of "acceptance". It appears not.Apparently, 61% of people lie on their first date. I used to hope some nice woman would simply ask me out. 7 Research also shows something else - the majority of men see themselves as far better looking than they are. SweetiePie (author) from Southern California, USA on July 28, 2011: Never understood why some have to say, "Oh you have to get back out there". I found out the hard way that men don't want single mothers, or at least they don't want me. I've had some interesting jobs (media, TV etc) and I've got new ideas for my own artistic creativity. oof so many people getting roasted in this article XD. Deacon Martin from Bristol, UK on March 11, 2020: Nice one Tessa. SweetiePie (author) from Southern California, USA on September 23, 2018: @iamtanmay I actually have had people tell me I am beautiful, and I know I am attractive. Very few keep themselves fit, obesity in the USA is everywhere. This would be why more women than men choose permanent singlehood , men are obsolete in women's lives. In some places, there are more men than women, and in other places there are more women than men. Apr 20, 2017. But I don’t dream of being a billionaire anymore. You are obviously a very intelligent woman with many valuable things to offer...I find it a shame that any of us would equate "what we bring to the table", to a monetary wealth we would look for in someone else. I also grew up with that idea and it took me a long time to realize that a relationship with a man was incredibly hard work and that it was much easier to be on one's own. And it affected my ability to be friends with men because I no longer trusted them after that. I'm thinking of a more permanent change. Well I can't do all the things I want to if I'm in a relationship. I feel the same way. I am a 30 year old guy, and I am a virgin (not by choice). Now that you are still young, you shouldn't give up ! I'm very happy I've found this forum. I enjoy spending time with people. I don't care where you take me. He told me I was a beautiful woman and I would get married. I do know that I would never go out with a man who wasn't well educated (and that doesn't mean a qualification), hadn't traveled the world, and wasn't in good physical condition. That I could go with. Keep mixing it up. There is a lot to live for in this lifetime, even if you are single. I've felt so free the last year or so it's been incredible. 8. I never dated much in my life, my last relationship pretty much took it out of me, to the point of my weight being 90lbs, being a 5 foot 6 woman, 90 lbs is VERY thin, The day I left I felt like a million chains had slide off of me, there was no more that could be done to me, I had hit rock bottom, and felt like this person took me on a trip down the devils throat, well now 3 years later I am healthy as can be expected. I had those experiences every single day. Why waste my time? If you just want to be single for life that is an admirable goal. You're so entertaining. There is a segment of the population who has completely given up on dating and is happier for it. Too many men that are good looking and have money,(I have neither). It's obvious we have completely different life experiences. Personally I don't believe in dating, because it's mostly a parade of ego's with nonsense stories about blah, blah, blah, while both sides are looking for a soulmate, and that doesn't make sense. Even in the best relationship I always hear nagging and complaining between both parties, and as an outsider looking in, that does not strike me as a picnic. My big regret is that I've always wanted a family, it sucks to be alone all the time. It's not just one simple reason, but rather a combination of personal experiences and environmental factors; i.e., fewer single people as one grows older and more difficult to meet suitable potential partners. In fact a few years ago I was taking some classes at a university and a friend noted my study group consisted of some of the most attractive women on campus. They can't seem to help themselves. A handshake does not get you into jail. And, equally unfortunately, the other 98% of humanity want to be in a relationship with someone with those kind of looks as well. It's easier for a guy to not date as just getting a date is such a long involved and often degrading chore. I have a puppy and without sounding sappy, she is the best thing that ever happened to me. Up to you! Being on your own can be a positive thing. It's been years to come to this point of acceptance regarding childlessness and the illusion of "happily every after". Relationships are all about compromise, which means one partner will always have to concede something to make the other happy. I am also done with dating. It is difficult to raise one family successfully.. how can a person manage multiple families...financially, emotionally.. timewise and then look to start a new relationship with me? Basically men have no right to touch a woman until and unless she gives permission to do so. Last year I decided to try and be open-minded about the whole dating thing again, but it did not really go very well. Everyone stuffs this idea down our throats that we need a relationship to be happy, and that's so wrong. None of the men I've ever dated, and even the one who married me, ever really loved me. To my future self dont be afraid of boredom and loneliness. That is really crazy for me because sex and girls is what i use to be about. Maybe you've embarked on a series of misadventures that never last more than one or two dates. I know it is possible to join groups and get out there to meet lots of people, but that is not my thing. And now most women prefer men with money which they will never go with a man that makes much less money, and this makes most of the women of today real users and losers. The problem with highly competitive societies is that they become very stressful, and there are only a few winners. Looking for a needle in a haystack isn't appealing! These feelings really put my mind in a tailspin. Thank you so much for your response! I feel everyone's experience is different. It's best to just give up and shun everybody as much as possible. I found a lot of women had low ambitions ,low pay and felt it necersary to find fault in my ambitions and be littled me with and made me lose what little confidence i had left . I dont ever want to date again it is just not for me. Sometimes, my diary was so full that I would ask to be hoem at 10 pm, then meet another guy at 10.30 pm. I only know one person who is in a happy long term relationship. It took me a week to work out that she thought that I had a fancy, big word vocab. I don't believe that one can lie about something like that. Last year I decided to open myself up to a man who I thought liked me, but it turned out he just used me for the company when the woman he liked was upset he would not commit right away. You've mentioned a few in your article. The reason why women think men are all the same is that they all want sex. Beauty is an amazing attractor, isn’t it. I was raised by a single mother on welfare, we moved constantly so I attended a dozen or so schools before I went to college. Even though I've have been betrayed horribly in past relationships, I'm starting to feel a longing, a sense of incompleteness that I've never felt before. My girls will remember and laugh because their dad didn't get pressured into doing something he did not want to do with someone he didn't care all that much for to begin with. :) thank you for the Hub. Also, a spouse and a significant can cheat on you because they are not happy. You might want to read my book, https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/891050. They don't like not to be noticed. Knowing you can make whatever you like for dinner without having to worry about your boyfriend's peanut allergy. So, no,it's not my perception. It's good to know I'm not the only one calling it quits. In fact men find around 85% of women in their 20s attractive while women only judge 20% of men as such. Your article is interesting. I am not saying I will never date anyone again, but I have not for years because I am not part of the dating scene. Sorry if I got too metaphysical, I just felt compelled to reach out to you...that's all :) Wishing you love and light. That’s likely due to difficult, unfortunate timing. When I used to go dancing at dancing schools for the socials, I used to meet many men, and people used to hang out all the time. Choosing not to date or not to be in a relationship has nothing to do with someone's looks. Some people feel much more themselves when "alone" and I very much admire that. If my wife passes on I will not remarry.I am set in my ways and do not want to adapt to another woman.Sex is not that great when you are older, honest folks should admit this.Common interests with a new person would be hard to find.My job is demanding enough without the stress dating would bring.Am I perfect ...NO. You can't be any older than I am, and I seem to remember that in the 'old days,' boys would be boys, and women could do nothing about it. Not to be a Debbie Downer, but no dating? Never say never. Some friendships ended, some couples moved onto stronger relationships, and some retained their friendship after moving on from an uncomfortable moment. It's fine not to date anymore because it really is difficult to find people who share our values. For the present I feel women are all right provided that they're friends members of my family and on a professional basis but intimate love is forbidden territory. I know it sounds unfair for me to say that, but I also cannot force my feelings towards a woman who is older than me. According to. Of course, he would have to match me in everything else as well, and that’s not likely. Not a single one in the 26 years I lived there, and I had decided at that point to focus on myself and my interests. Now in back living in a city. It's a numbers game. I was 25 at the time. However, he never wanted to move to California and was not interested in pursuing a long term relationship with me. The reason is simple. Men also deeply resent having to part with their 'hard earned money' when there are divorces. lately I've thought of if something is wrong with me cuz i barley ever dated i know there isn't but you just think cuz ppl just judge and talk abt guys more then you care for cuz they want you to date cause in their eyes its normal you date get married have kids n so on but its not normal if you feel just fine on ur own and the idea seems ok sometime but in ur heart you know you always been best on your own cuz you always done best and you just wish others could just understand and not think you weird or possibly lonely for wanting this but just is who you are.... thankyou for posting this. He whispered sweet nothings into the receiver into the wee hours of the night, which I would learn the next morning. Its difficult because when I see a nice looking couple, I get jealous and resentful. Thanks for sharing your insights. Of course, that’s a generality. 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